Sometimes my life hurts when I think about it too much, this time schadenfreude.
I bought a Honeypot maxi pads and placed it inside my bag and stowed it away at work inside my bag, where I thought it was safe for the time being, as I pulled one pad for myself during my period. When I came back to go home from finishing my shift, it was gone. Another time, I got an Ice Tea from Starbucks and placed it on the restroom counter for a minute while I go pee, and when I came out of the stall, one of the coworkers who were there took it and left. I felt hurt inside my heart.
Some people at work have been asking about my last name and I begin to become anxious and worried about what they need it for. I'm worried they stalk me on the internet to find this blog or my social media and the things about me out there in the open. To try to find out about my family, my associations, my books, and would use it against me.
I got hate mail from my website email feedback prompt that goes directly into my email inbox.
I thought about my life again and it began to hurt me again. This time, I think it involves people at work.
I was assaulted when I was young and I went to school while I was healing, and got two masters degrees to find work. When my Father died, I couldn't work a normal job anymore, because I have to take care of my Mom. I now work at a Walmart because I'm caring for my ailing Mom. The story makes people sad but I think it makes my coworkers and people who hate me feel better about themselves. I haven't met the person who I am to marry, and I don't think I will be able to have biological children anymore. I think a lot of people feel comfort from that, but to my expense.
I begin to think that they, the people who work with me, feel happy and liked me not because I'm such a spectacular person. I think they're happy because they don't feel so bad anymore since my life might be worse than theirs. I begin to think that the schadenfreude is the reason why people at work tolerate me. I don't even know if they like me now, but I know they like stealing from me. I know also that people who dislike me from the past are laughing at me because I'm working at Walmart and the people at the retail store are laughing because I felt such a hard fall in life.
Either way, the thoughts of these things, makes me cry.
I don't know if people genuine like me because I'm a good woman, or because I had such a terrible fortune.
Today, I just couldn't stop thinking about the schadenfreude that gives other people comfort from knowing that I've gone through hardships. That they feel better because I might be worse off. The feeling is the same as the time I knew I was raped and was being gossiped as being a doorknob by the rapist's girlfriend. She would tell men around me that I was used and will be used forever and no longer pure. I felt violated and as if a knife was on my back, the blood trickled into my heart and made it sob as tears came out of my eyes. The feeling of the coworkers stealing from me and the hate mails got me hurt again. It hurts, I won't lie, and it's been tough.
I don't know if my life will be just full of these sufferings or I will come out of it in the future. I hope I will come out of it in the future, because I don't know how much more I can handle.
Being asked for my last name was the worst, because I felt proud of my last name then I realized they had used it to look me up on the internet and my things were stolen. I have a feeling they think I'm rich because of this blog, and because of my brother, who has his own successes that he worked hard for and deserved. I have a feeling that people think I'm rich and privileged by association. I won't know for sure until I felt their discrimination, but I have a feeling people either hate me or they genuinely like me. I think I'm a polarizing woman, and I wish I wasn't.
I wish everyone likes me, and I am loved, but that's probably not going to happen. I have a feeling that people like me because I'm the object of schadenfreude, that I've gone through a lot of shitty things but still alive. I have a feeling people are happy that I sometimes contemplate suicide because of the people who hurt me. I have a feeling about a lot of things.
My hope....my hope is getting there I think.
My hope is people do feel comfort in knowing that I've gone through hardships and still willing to work, still willing to live, still pursuing to write. I know the devil will always nudge me and tell me that people are laughing and I'm the butt of their jokes. I know...those thoughts come, but I know one thing. I am with God, and Suffering + Jesus = Faith.
For that, I will keep the faith, keep the crying and hoping, keep the praying at Jesus's feet, and loving God and loving myself, and keep trying to love others.
It's been a rough day today, perhaps I should stop thinking, but I've been hurting and the thinking just processes the hurt....and I will keep writing and praying.
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